Hi, I’m Miriam Brait,
My website, Past the Past, is simply about that: undoing the effects of past experiences on us, transcending them no matter how deeply those experiences shaped us, and creating a new life for ourselves.
Here you will find:
The Science of Trauma: Information on identifying what is truly happening to your brain and nervous system during and after distress.
Decoding Adaptations: Learning to identify the specific “maladaptive” ways we cope with abusive, neglectful, or simply less-than-ideal environments.
Real Solutions: Strategies for escaping the compulsive nature of beliefs, nervous system reactions, and coping mechanisms that hold you back.
I write about how people get hurt and how they achieve post-traumatic growth, informed by neuroscience, psychology, and researched findings.
A little bit about myself
I’m a psychologist based in Romania with a primary interest in C-PTSD and insecure attachment. I also study how different modalities can influence attachment and relational healing. Alongside my writing and research, I offer attachment-focused, trauma-informed coaching to clients worldwide
For me, focusing on complex trauma and attachment wounds felt like an obvious choice. After reading Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker, my eyes were opened to the many ways we continue trying to survive in adulthood as a consequence of what happened to us in childhood.
Many of us carry wounds that make little sense to others, especially because we have learned to do “well” in life. But trauma teaches us adaptation strategies that work like dirty oil: they keep the car running, but damage the engine over time.
Attachment theory later opened my eyes to how trauma is perpetuated and internalized through relationships, and how ultimately the chain can be broken, because attachment can change from insecure to secure. With it, many unhelpful internal models and forms of inner criticism may one day no longer make sense.
Ultimately, I am an optimist. I’ve seen enough to believe in good, in people, and in their strength, even when their past would suggest otherwise.
This is what Past the Past is about: my hope and mission to teach others how to overcome their past.
