If you’re ready to move past the patterns that hold you back, welcome!
I am Miriam, a researcher in clinical psychology, psychologist, and trauma-informed coach who helps high-functioning adults recover from childhood trauma, narcissistic abuse, and attachment wounds so they can establish a sense of self and build relationships that finally feel good.
In my work, I focus on helping clients navigate day-to-day life more effectively while also addressing the deeper causes of their distress, at a pace that allows for real change without collapse or overwhelm.
One question I get asked a lot is: is coaching only speaking to someone and having that space where one is hopefully understood?
In my work I don’t only hold defense mechanisms, I don’t only investigate the deep roots of behaviour, thinking and feeling, but I have to challenge them in a way that presents the least resistance possible and, perhaps the hardest part, I have to come and replace the burden with a sense of lightness. Fear with real hope, because telling people that it is all in their head only strengthens their feeling that they can’t be helped.
To real problems, real people need to be helped to find real solutions.
Who do I work with
Most of my clients are high functioning but struggle in a few key areas of their lives. Many have already tried a bunch of modalities, and are at a point where they want to give it one more try but feel lost in the noise of “personal development content”, that in a way makes sense but in other ways does not.
They are people who crave deep work, presence and a safe therapeutical space, and of course, they want to feel better and have more confidence that life will change for the good. Over the years they have learned how to cope, but the way they do that, the fuel they use, is damaging the engine. It takes a lot of effort to carry a life with heavy baggage on your back.
Common issues clients bring to our work include:
Relationship and attachment difficulties
• Attracting partners or friends who are critical, unavailable, or emotionally volatile
• Repeating painful relational patterns not knowing why
• Intense fear of abandonment or fear of commitment
Emotional and nervous system struggles
• Inability to relax after work
• Emotional overwhelm or numbness
• Chronic anxiety or difficulty feeling safe even when you are physically and financially safe
Identity and self-esteem injuries
• A persistent sense of not being good enough
• People pleasing, difficulty saying no, giving too much
• The need to be the best at everything yet never reaching the feeling of “good enough”
My clients often have difficulties relaxing, relating to others or with behaviours they would like to change but don’t know why they can’t.
My job is to build their map and to figure out together how their current behaviour, and even their thinking and feeling, serves them subconsciously but at the same time makes their life harder.
All of this is done at a pace that is sustainable for you, while still allowing space for challenge and change.
How I work & what modalities I use
My work is relational, structured, and grounded in real life.
While insight, emotional awareness, and nervous system regulation are important, lasting change does not happen through introspection alone. It happens when patterns are understood and engaged differently in real relationships, real choices, and real situations.
Many of my clients already understand themselves well. What they struggle with is translating that understanding into different outcomes. Together, we look closely at how they show up in relationships with others and which defense mechanisms no longer serve them.
I help my clients work through transference within the therapeutic relationship and actively address patterns as they show up both in and outside our sessions.
Sessions are conversational, engaged, and collaborative. We think together, notice emotional and relational patterns as they emerge, and work toward change that is both psychologically meaningful and practically lived. This is not meditative or passive work, and it is not focused on providing temporary relief. It requires reflection, honesty, and a willingness to tolerate discomfort in service of true transformation.
I may draw from different psychological frameworks when helpful, including experiential, psychodynamic, and attachment-related therapies.
Work With Me
Does this resonate? Would you like to learn more?
Email me at helpwithmiriam@gmail.com to schedule your first consult or ask your questions. All sessions are online via a secure, private platform.
My current rate is €250 per 50-minute individual session.
Q&A
Where are all of the sessions held?
All sessions take place on a private, secure healthcare platform. You will receive a personal link before your first appointment.
What happens in the first sessions? What should I expect?
In the beginning, we take time to get to know each other. We explore what brings you here, but the pace is always set by you.
Typically, we start by uncovering your current psychological map and how it has served you so far. We may also talk about your goals and how I plan to help you reach them.
What’s your communication style or attitude? Who speaks the most? How do we interact with each other?
My style is active, attuned, and structured. I offer gentle but direct guidance that helps you see patterns clearly and make meaningful change.
I guide my clients beyond the typical “How does this make you feel?” as the nature of the modalities I use is different than regular coaching or talk therapy, but I also allow my clients to speak their minds and create space for them to shed their burdens.
I didn’t answer all your questions on here? Feel free to book a consult or ask more at helpwithmiriam@gmail.com
